LOH Contest #284: Peace is Non-Negotiable, Love is Multiplied || La paz no se negocia, el amor se multiplica

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¡Hola, queridas Ladies! Es un gusto estar aquí una semana más. Para este concurso número #284, que nos regala nuestra querida @ifarmgirl he elegido reflexionar sobre dos temas que tocan fibras muy distintas: el respeto propio frente al conflicto y la apertura del corazón ante el crecimiento de nuestros hijos. Aquí les comparto mis respuestas.

Hello, dear Ladies! It is a pleasure to be here for another week. For this contest number 184, I have chosen to reflect on two themes that touch very different chords: self-respect in the face of conflict and opening one's heart to our children's growth. Here are my answers.

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1️⃣ You are at a party, and someone is saying derogatory remarks (or negative things) about you. How would you deal with it, or what would you do?

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1️⃣ Estás en una fiesta y alguien está diciendo comentarios despectivos (o cosas negativas) sobre ti. ¿Cómo lo afrontarías o qué harías?

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Me considero una persona pacífica, pero he aprendido que la paz sin límites no es paz, sino sumisión. Si alguien me ataca de frente, me defiendo. Mi reacción inicial suele ser una mirada fija y constante; una invitación silenciosa para que la otra persona use su sentido común y se detenga. Pero si persiste, me acerco. Con calma, en voz baja. No soy de las que grita ni se cae a golpes, pero tampoco me quedo callada.

Recuerdo que hace años, saliendo con un grupo de amigos, había una chica, "Patricia", que solía soltar comentarios cargados de envidia hacia cualquiera que fuera delgada o se viera bien. Una noche, mientras compartíamos en una mesa grande, comenzó a hablar de mí de forma despectiva a una chica nueva. Al principio traté de ignorarlo, pero cuando se volvió descarado, tomé una silla de otra mesa, me senté frente a ellas y le pregunté directamente: "¿Todo bien, Patricia? ¿Tienes algo que quieras decirme?".

Ella soltó una risa nerviosa y me dijo que no me metiera en donde no me llamaban. Mi respuesta fue clara: "Si estás hablando de mí en voz lo suficientemente alta para que yo, que estoy al otro lado de la mesa, te escuche, claro que es mi problema. Pero te diré algo: si te hace feliz andar soltando veneno, está bien, la que se está amargando la vida eres tú. Y te entiendo; con esa cara, ese cabello y ese cuerpo, yo también estaría enojada con la vida".

Lo dije con voz pausada y suave, pero lo suficiente para que los que estaban cerca escucharan. Ella se puso pálida y el silencio en la mesa fue total. Simplemente me levanté y volví a mi sitio. Tiempo después, ella se me acercó en un lugar llamado Greenwich Pub para pedirme disculpas. A partir de ahí, nuestra relación se tornó sociable y, al menos frente a mí, nunca volvió a burlarse de nadie.

I consider myself a peaceful person, but I have learned that peace without boundaries is not peace, but submission. If someone attacks me head-on, I defend myself. My initial reaction is usually a steady, fixed gaze a silent invitation for the other person to use their common sense and stop. But if they persist, I approach them. Calmly, in a low voice. I am not the type to shout or get into a physical fight, but I don't stay silent either.

I remember years ago, while hanging out with a group of friends, there was a girl, "Patricia," who used to drop comments loaded with envy toward anyone who was thin or looked good. One night, while we were sharing a large table, she started talking about me in a derogatory way to a new girl. At first, I tried to ignore it, but when it became blatant, I took a chair from another table, sat in front of them, and asked her directly: "Is everything okay, Patricia? Is there something you want to tell me?"

She gave a nervous laugh and told me not to get involved where I wasn't called. My response was clear: "If you are talking about me loud enough for me to hear you from across the table, of course it is my business. But I'll tell you what: if spitting venom makes you happy, that’s fine; you're the one making your own life miserable. And I get it; with that face, that hair, and that body, I’d be angry at life too."

I said it in a slow, quiet voice, but loud enough for those nearby to hear. She turned pale, and the silence at the table was total. I simply stood up and went back to my seat. Sometime later, she approached me at a place called Greenwich Pub to apologize. From then on, our relationship became social and, at least in front of me, she never made fun of anyone again.

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2️⃣ What are you like as a mother-in-law? If you are yet to become one, please share how you imagine yourself as a mother-in-law in the future.

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2️⃣ ¿Cómo eres como suegra? Si aún no lo eres, comparte cómo te imaginas como suegra en el futuro.

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Aún no soy suegra formalmente, ya que mi hijo Gabriel apenas cumplirá 16 años en unos días. Sin embargo, ya he tenido mis primeros "ensayos", pues las dos novias que ha tenido me han parecido encantadoras. La primera era una niña muy dulce y la segunda, aunque con una personalidad distinta, también me caía muy bien.

Veo cómo es mi Gabriel con sus compañeras: es atento, un caballero y muy cariñoso. Por eso, no creo que vaya a sentirme celosa en el futuro. Al contrario, mi filosofía es simple: quien quiera bien a mi hijo, tendrá mi cariño de vuelta.

Mi intención es ser igual de afectuosa con esas niñas como lo soy con él. No veo el rol de suegra como una competencia, sino como una oportunidad de ampliar el círculo de amor que protege a mi hijo. Si ella lo hace feliz, para mí es más que bienvenida al equipo.

I am not a mother-in-law formally yet, as my son Gabriel will turn 16 in just a few days. However, I have already had my first "rehearsals," as the two girlfriends he has had seemed lovely to me. The first was a very sweet girl, and the second, although with a different personality, I also liked very much.

I see how my Gabriel is with his female classmates: he is attentive, a gentleman, and very affectionate. Because of this, I don't think I will feel jealous in the future. On the contrary, my philosophy is simple: whoever loves my son well will have my affection in return.

My intention is to be just as affectionate with those girls as I am with him. I don't see the role of a mother-in-law as a competition, but as an opportunity to expand the circle of love that protects my son. If she makes him happy, she is more than welcome to the team.

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Final Reflection

Reflexión final

Ya sea marcando un límite ante un comentario malintencionado o abriendo las puertas de mi hogar a una futura nuera, todo se reduce al valor. Conocer mi propio valor para no permitir que nadie lo pisotee, y valorar la felicidad de mi hijo para abrazar a quienes él decida amar.

Whether it's setting a boundary against a malicious comment or opening the doors of my home to a future daughter-in-law, it all comes down to value. Knowing my own value enough not to let anyone trample on it, and valuing my son's happiness enough to embrace those he chooses to love.

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Thank you for reading and for being part of my journey!

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De mi corazón al tuyo,

Gracias por acompañarme hasta aquí 💜


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From my heart to yours,

Thank you for accompanying me this far 💜

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Sometimes we need to stand up for ourselves when it is called for. I like how you dealt with the Patricia thing. She must have learnt her lesson from you then :) Loving whoever loves your son would be ideal. You'd be a wonderful mom-in-law-to-be! Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts. !LADY💖

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Thank you so much for your kind words! Setting boundaries is definitely a learning process, but so necessary for our peace of mind. I truly believe that respect is the foundation of any relationship. Regarding my son, I always try to lead with love, and I hope to be the best support for him and his future partner. Sending you a big hug! 💖

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