LADIES OF HIVE COMMUNITY CONTEST #250

1️⃣ If forgiveness is especially beneficial for those who can let go of past grudges, the question to reflect upon is: Do we always have to forgive? Why forgive someone who doesn't deserve forgiveness? Should we always forgive? Share your thoughts.

~ 𝐀𝐍𝐃 / 𝐎𝐑 ~

2️⃣ If we realize that we should love ourselves more, yet no one teaches us how to do so, how can we begin to love ourselves? What can we do to feel better about ourselves?

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Honestly, forgiveness is like this super tricky thing that I think about a lot. Like, if forgiveness is real for people who can let go of grudges they've been holding onto, it makes me wonder... do we have to forgive everyone? Like, what about when someone did something messed up and they don't even care or say sorry? Why would I forgive someone who doesn't deserve it?

Do We Always Have to Forgive?
I don't think so. Like, forgiveness is kinda a personal thing, right? It's like choosing whether to let go of this heavy backpack of anger and hurt you've been carrying around. But sometimes, the thing that happened was so big or hurtful that it's hard to just forgive and move on like nothing happened. For example, if someone betrayed your trust in a major way and they're not even trying to make things right, it's like... do I have to forgive them just to feel better? Well, for my emotional, mental, and psychological health....Yes, I should.

Why forgive someone who doesn't deserve forgiveness
I think some people say forgiveness is more about you letting go of the bad feelings so you can move on with your life. It's like freeing yourself from being stuck in anger or sadness about what happened. But if the person didn't say sorry or try to fix what they did wrong, it's hard to just forgive them like that. Like, if they don't even care, why should I have to let go of how I feel about it? But then again, holding onto grudges can be like carrying this weight that stops you from being happy or moving forward. So maybe forgiveness is like dropping that weight... but only if I'm ready.

Should We Always Forgive?
Nah and yes, Nah because I don't think we should always forgive. Like, some things are just too big, or the person didn't even try to apologize or make amends. And sometimes, forgiving someone too fast might mean you don't even get to deal with how you feel about what happened. It's like, forgiveness needs to be real for you, not just something you do because you think you're supposed to. You gotta think about whether forgiving someone is gonna help you or hurt you, or if it'll help the relationship or not.
Yes because you need to be free from the hurt and the emotional stress, at least you owe yourself that.

How I See It
Forgiveness is kinda like this journey, tho it's very hard but it's also easy, depending on the individual involved and the weight of betrayal or crime committed. Sometimes it's needed for you to move on and feel better. Other times, you gotta keep boundaries up and protect yourself from people who hurt you, even if that means not forgiving them right away. It's all about what you need to heal and move forward in life.

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How to Begin Loving Ourselves
Like, it's crazy how we're always talking about loving others, being kind to friends, family, and stuff... but no one teaches us how to love ourselves. And like, if we realize we need to love ourselves more to be happy and stuff, how do we even start doing that? 🤔 It's like, self-love sounds kinda weird at first—like, isn't that selfish or something? But nope, turns out loving yourself is like the foundation of being able to love others in a real way.

Beginning to Love Ourselves
So, if no one's taught us how to love ourselves, we gotta kinda figure it out on our own... or learn from what works for us. Here's what I've been thinking about doing to feel better about myself:

• Being kind to myself: Like, when I mess up or do something dumb (which happens lol), instead of being super hard on myself, I try to be like... "Okay, yeah, that wasn't the best. But I'm human." Being nice to myself about mistakes helps.
• Doing things I love: Like, when I do stuff I'm passionate about—like cooking, writing, or singing, I feel way better and happy about myself.
• Not comparing myself to others: This is hard, lol. Like, seeing other people's highlight reels on social media makes me wanna compare... but then I remind myself everyone has their struggles. My life's mine, and I focus on being the best me.
• Taking care of myself: Like, making sure I sleep okay, eat kinda healthy, and get some exercise. When I take care of my body and mind, I feel like I'm showing myself love.

Feeling Better About Myself
To feel better about myself, I try to focus on the positives about me—like things I'm good at or stuff I've accomplished. It's like celebrating the little wins. And when I have those thoughts like "I'm not good enough"... I try to flip them, like, "I'm working on it," or "I'm enough right now."

Loving yourself is like this thing you gotta work on every day. Some days are gonna be harder than others. Like, I'll have days where I feel like trash about myself for no reason, and then I'll do something I love or talk to a friend, and suddenly I feel better. It's figuring out what works for you to love yourself more each day. And honestly, it's okay to have days where you don't love yourself that much... because working on it is what matters.