[ESP-ING] How to overcome emotional pain and a decision.
Greetings dear ladies of Hive, I am happy to share a little more of my thoughts and reflections with you, as in these two questions of the week I may be able to speak a little because of the experiences I have had, so let's begin.
1 How to recover from emotional pain or grief?
Everyone sometime in life has gone through an emotional loss and this can be losing a loved one, a job, a love, something that causes us suffering, and often we get caught in that pain that we can even feel depression and even want to die some people, but this is nothing more than the same suffering that causes it and the mind that plays an important role.
Talk about it:
One of the things I learned in my moments of pain is to talk about that which causes me suffering, in this case the loss of my parents for me was the greatest suffering of my life, but when I talk about them and the pain it causes me, especially in those early days for me it is liberating, and brings even a little joy, talking about it with our close family members is important and liberating.
Let go and cry:
I feel that many people repress others by telling them not to cry, but crying, unburdening is necessary no matter if the person cries every day, but as long as you can let go of that pain and talk about it is important, because little by little the person will get the idea that for example in my case that person is no longer there, was, we value what we had and we let go but it is necessary to let go and cry.
I believe that there comes a time when the tears no longer come and the moment of reflection arrives, and yes, years can pass and we can cry again for the same thing but, when we let go when we let go in peace everything will return to normal, step by step.
Be Patient:
Recovery does not come overnight there are good days, there are bad days there are days when we will remember and we will cry and that's ok, the process is linear and little by little we will be moving forward to where we want, it is also good to occupy ourselves with something so that our thoughts do not float around in our mind and play a trick on us, keeping busy with a mind focused on something else is important and little by little that recovery that is so needed will come.
🙃🙃 Everything Happens 😉😉
2.- You received invitations to three special places, in different places where would you go and why?
I lived this situation last year without having any idea that it could happen, it offers that it doesn't but it does happen, last year I receive the invitation to 3 different quince años, one from a niece of mine, another from a niece of my husband and the third from a friend, the three on the same day and the same hours, I didn't know what to do, but unfortunately I had to prioritize the people.
So after evaluating the situation, I wanted to be in the waltz with my niece, so it was the first place where I went, I shared with her about 2 hours and a half, since this was an hour earlier than the others and then I went to my husband's niece, we also shared a while with his family, and the third I decided not to go because it would be very late, so I apologize and did not go.
In the case of the three I think I would go for a while to all three because if he is my best friend I could not miss and surely he would wait for me to arrive.
This is my participation in the initiative of the week thanks to my friend @ifarmgirl I invite my friends @lisbethseijas and @leliisabel to participate.
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Saludos queridas damas de Hive, me alegra compartir un poco más de mis pensamientos y reflexiones con ustedes, ya que en estas dos preguntas de la semana quizás pueda hablar un poco por las vivencias que he tenido, así que comencemos.
1 ¿Como recuperarse del dolor o duelo emocional?
Todos alguna vez en la vida hemos pasado por una pérdida emocional y esto puede ser perder un ser querido, un empleo, un amor, algo que nos cause sufrimiento, y muchas veces nos dejamos atrapar en ese dolor que hasta podemos llegar a sentir depresión y hasta querer morir algunas personas, pero esto no es más que el mismo sufrimiento que lo causa y la mente que nos juega un papel importante.
Hablar de ello:
Una de las cosas que aprendí en mis momentos delor es hablar de eso que me causa el sufrimiento, en este caso la pérdida de mis padres para mi fue del mayor sufrimiento de mi vida, pero cuando hablo de ellos y del dolor que me causa, sobre todo en esos primeros días para mi es liberador, y trae hasta un poco de alegría, hablarlo con nuestros familiares cercanos es importante y liberador.
Soltar y Llorar:
Siento que muchas personas reprimen a otros diciéndoles que no lloren, pero llorar, desahogarse es necesario no importa si la persona llora todos los días, pero Mientras pueda soltar ese dolor y pueda hablarlo es importante, ya que poco a poco la persona se va a hacer la idea de que por ejemplo en mi caso esa persona ya no está, estuvo, valoramos lo que tuvimos y dejamos ir pero es necesario soltar y llorar.
Creo que llega un momento que las lágrimas ya no salen y que llegua el momento de la reflexión, y sí, pueden pasar años y podemos volver a llorar por lo mismo pero, cuando soltamos cuando dejamos ir en paz todo va a volver a la normalidad, paso a paso.
Se Paciente:
La recuperación no llega de la noche a la mañana hay días buenos, hay días malos hay días en que vamos a recordar y vamos a llorar y eso está bien, el proceso es lineal y poco a poco vamos a ir avanzando a donde queremos, es bueno también ocuparse en algo para que nuestros pensamientos no anden flotando en nuestra mente y nos jueguen una mala pasada, mantenerse ocupado con una mente enfocada en otra cosa es importante y poco a poco va a llegar esa recuperación que tanto se necesita.
🙃🙃🙃 Todo Pasa 😉😉😉
2.- Recibiste invitación para tres lugares especiales, en lugares diferentes a donde irías y porque?
Esta situación la viví el año pasado sin tener idea que podría suceder, ofrece que no pero si sucede, el año pasado recibo la invitación a 3 quince años diferentes, uno de una sobrina mía, otro de una sobrina de mi esposo y el tercero de una amiga,.Los tres el mismo día y las mismas horas, no sabía que hacer, pero lamentablemente tuve que priorizar a las personas.
Así que luego de evaluar la situación, quería estar en el vals con mi sobrina, así que fue el primer lugar donde fui, compartí con ella aproximadamente 2 horas y medias, ya que este era una hora más temprano que los otros y luego fui al de la sobrina de mi esposo, también compartimos un rato.con su familia, y al tercero decidí no ir pues llegaría muy tarde , así que lamento pedi disculpas y no fuimos.
En el caso de los tres que se plantean creo que iría un rato a los tres pues si es mi mejor amigo no podre faltar y seguro ese me esperaría que llegara.
Esta es mi participación en la iniciativa de la semana gracias a la amiga @ifarmgirl invito a participar a las amigas @lisbethseijas y la amiga @leliisabel
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The truth is, no matter the age we get we are still our parents babies. I also lost both parents quite early, and it saddened me because non of them really celebrated milestones with me. I cry alot if I get to remember things am experiencing knowing fully well it would have beeb different if they where both here.
I understand you perfectly and it is okay to cry when remembering, but do not suffer for what could have been, the mind always plays tricks on us, remember the beautiful and be thankful because even if it was a short time you had them, and surely they would like to see you be happy and achieve many important things, ask God to give you the peace you need.
I send you a hug 🤗, happy day.
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement😍
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Indeed, sharing what we feel with our loved ones or friends can ease our pain, at least that's what I discovered when we lost my Mom a few weeks ago. We all cried together, even our Dad, and we still do whenever the feeling comes up.
Three special occasions happening at the same time can give us a dilemma. It's good that you made a way to attend two of the 3 invitations you received and enjoyed them.😍
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I empathise with you and understand the pain of losing parents, as you say, venting, talking to family members is liberating, as well as valuing time and life together with them. It's great that you were able to attend two of the three invitations, thank you for sharing your experiences my friend,
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