Greetings ladies and hope we are all enjoying wellness and peace of mind that exceeds all things 😍😃.

It has been a while here due to work and family, but this very question for this week is one I really want to contribute on as a mother who has brought up children that has passed through many schools 🏫 and even until date. Thanks to our dear friend @marivic10 for this great question.

Bullying is an act that should be taking seriously especially in schools where it is becoming too rampant with the 21st generation children, and how the kids of this era and times due not see the danger this act of bullying can cause their victims. They might at most times bully their victims for fun 🤩, not knowing the emotional trauma the other person (victim) is going through because they lacked understanding.

And it is also saddling on how those called the teachers who are supposed to pay attention to this issue, caution the children who always involve in bullying other children or even set out a punishment for them, which can in turn make the restrict and be fearful 😨. But instead, some teachers are the ones who first start the process of bullying a student 👩‍🎓 due to one reason or the other, before a group of students takes over, knowing that no one can stop them.

And apart from how the bullies enjoy 😊 bullying others for fun 🤩, it appears though that some if these bullies knows what they are doing by causing another person to go throw misery and emotional 😭 feelings, which begins to hinder the child from paying attention to class teaching, having fear 😨 within the school environment and with time began to loose confidence in themselves.

My Girls Were Both Victims Of Bullying:

My children while in Secondary Schools fall victims to bullying. First, my first daughter who was chubby while growing up and with an upper stomach which later disappeared when she stretched into her youth. But before then she looks a bit chubby because she loves food 🥘. The bullying she got because of her look then was not even from students but from a teacher who was not even her class teacher . But any time she cones in contact with my daughter, she will call her “big tummy “. My daughter reported this to me the first time which I over looked telling her not to mind her. But as time goes by, some if class mates who does not like started to call her “big tummy “ with any slight argument. This is when she started to get worried 😦 and emotionally attacked to this incidents

What Did I Do?

I could not allow this to get out of hand and cause my daughter more emotion or distractions from her studies, so I took out time to visit her school. First, I reported the case to the principal of the school who gave me the go ahead other to confront the teacher. After narrating the issue to her, she said she was only just playing with her - but I saw it from her face that she was lying 🤥. But she ended up apologizing to my daughter after I warned her to desist from calling her such because my daughter has a name.

Secondly, I went to her class to also report the issue to her class teacher who called out on the students for a serious warning . And that who ever calls my daughter such a name “big tummy “ will be punished seriously. And that was a serious action I took because after that visit, she felt so confident and assured.

In The Case Of My Second Daughter:

As a child she had an accident of first degree burn from hot water 💦 which affected her right upper leg joint. Just because that joint area has more thicker vain, it usually will leave a scar . We were hospitalized for twi (2) months when she had that accident at the age three (3), making sure she gets the best treatment that will leave no scar. But joint being joint, just a little scar was left there.

And then in her junior class in her secondary school days, she had this teacher who always looks for a way to bring down students, especially if you are not among those who buy things for her. She keeps telling my daughter why does she like wearing shorts 🩳 during summer coaching? And one day said to her “don’t you know you have bad leg?” And did it in the presence of other students. My daughter was surprised because she never thought of her leg as a bad leg just because of a little scar from burn 💦.

When she came home and told me about the incident, I just laughed. Then I asked her how she felt about it, especially while in the presence of her fellow students and friends. She just said “ mummy this is nothing because I don’t have a bad leg”. And again said, “is because I don’t buy things for her which I will not do”. That was just that.

I did not need to border myself in this aspect because my second daughter has a different personality from my first daughter . She feels grounded and has less worries from what people say to her. And knowing its a way to bully her, did not want to give chances or room to it with emotion or the feelings that she has a bad leg .

The above two instances occurred in different ways and to two different personalities . And as a mother, we should always pay attention to know how our kids feels about the act of bullying they receive because that is what will lead to the next action we take. We should not ignore our children when they complain about bullying because some can be traumatizing to those who can not stand up by themselves and needs support, unlike others who goes all the way to stay with self courage and motivation.

Many of these school children who are bullied lives under fear 😨 and can not speak out, so its left for parents and guardians to closely monitor their wards , watching signs of depression, mood swings and constant anxiety 😥 when school is mentioned. And parents should not hesitate to move a child out of school 🏫 when they are not able to resolve the issue of bullying of their wards because there could be dangers if immediate actions are not taken.

Thank you ladies for your kind visit and reading 😍💕.

Best Regards @sunshine29 🧡

Images are mine.