The Hardest Decision I Ever Had to Make for Love

One of the most powerful emotions that may exist among two people is love. It is a magnet to make you find the good in a person when others are unable to do so. It makes you dream and hope and plan a future together. However, love is not always an easy road sometimes it is a matter of challenge to love, a challenge that cannot be resolved by nothing but the feelings.

Among such scenarios is the case where two individuals who love each other get to know that they are both sickle cell carriers (AS genotype). It is a heart-breaking and painful discovery that can alter everything, especially in the case when the marriage is a day off.

Imagine you are in a great love with a person and you had formed the dreams with the partner, you have introduced one another to families, you have planned the marriage, and even pictured the children. And then, unexpectedly, the test results are found to be both AS. Love is confronted with reality at that point. The fact that having children with your partner would subject them to sickle cell disease which is a painful and lifelong illness. It is no longer only at the love you both have in common, it is now a question of health, responsibility, and future of your unborn children.

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I would be heart broken were I in that place. I would also cry, doubt everything, and think that the world was disintegrating. How come that you simply abandon the person you have been planning your entire life with? How do you tell your heart that it must end due to a medical condition because it is so pure? No how unpleasant it may sound, I do not think that love is sufficient in the case when the truth is followed by an ending that can ruin innocent lives.

Most individuals are of the opinion that true love must overcome everything including health. Wisdomless love may be regretful. The sickle cell disease is not a laughing matter. I have heard how people live with it, how painful it is, how many times they have to go onto the hospital, how they cannot sleep and how pathetic they feel after they observe their children in pain. No father or mother will want that of his or her child. And should I really love someone, then I should love them to ask myself about what will become of the kind of children we may create in this world.

Quitting such a case is among the most difficult choices one can decide to make. It is unjust since it is not a matter of not loving or not committing. It is all about securing the future. Couples can attempt to persuade themselves that technology or religion will turn out to be alright. However, there are times of knowing when to quit, although your heart would like to keep on going. Love must not deceive us to reality; and this ought to enlighten us to what is right.

Had I been in that situation, however painful it would be to me, I would prefer to release. It would be done with tears in my eyes and a calm heart knowing that I have made a choice and that I have chosen life. I would still choose not to be born into the world in order to make a child endure a life of pain. Beautiful love is all right, however, responsible love is also loving.

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I think that with time, the heart mends. The love will not fully dissipate but life will continue. I will never forget the fact that sometimes love does not mean holding so tight but letting go when the holding on will do more harm than good. True love is to desire the best to each other even in being apart that is the best.

Conclusively, love and reality are two influential forces which are at times conflicting. The love makes life an excellent thing to enjoy but this is not the reason why we are in reality. Emotions should submit to wisdom when it comes to matters such as compatibility of the genotypes. Making good decisions does not imply that you never loved anyone, it just implies that you loved wisely. Since at times, it takes no weakness to leave the love of your life, it takes strength.