When I End Friendships, I Don’t Look Back

To be honest, I’ve never really been the type of person that keeps a lot of friends. I’ve always been the type that loves my space and peace of mind. I believe friendship should come with understanding, respect, and good energy. Once I start feeling like the vibe is no longer right, I quietly move back.

Yes, I have ended a friendship before. And I don’t regret it at all.

There was this one friend I had, she came into my life at a time when I was trying to open up more and allow people in. At first, everything seemed okay. We used to talk a lot, gist about random things, even plan small outings. But with time, I started to notice some things that didn’t sit well with me.

She always liked to compare herself with others, especially me. Anytime I shared something good that happened to me, instead of her being happy, she would just find one way to bring me down or act cold. And she always wanted to know everything happening in my life, but never really shared hers. One day, I just sat down and thought, "Is this really what friendship is about?"

I didn’t fight her or argue. I just started distancing myself slowly. I stopped calling, stopped replying immediately, and when she noticed and asked me, I told her plain and simple, “I just feel like we’re growing apart, and I don’t want to force anything.” She didn’t take it well, but I was at peace with myself.

Sometimes I look back at that moment, and I still believe I made the right choice. I don’t like stress in my life, and when someone’s character and mine don’t match, I don’t wait till things get worse. I believe everyone has their way of living, and that’s fine but if your way of living begins to drain me, I quietly walk away.

People always say, "You need friends," and yes, it’s good to have people around. But for me, I value quality over quantity. I would rather have one or two people that understand me than ten that make me feel less than myself.

I don’t keep friends just for keeping sake. If your aura doesn’t go with mine, I’ll feel it. And when I feel it, I don’t force things. Life is already hard enough, I don’t need to surround myself with energies that pull me down or make me question my worth.

So yes, I’ve ended friendships before and if I have to do it again for my peace, I will.

Because I love peace more than company.

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