Contest #235 of @Ladiesofhive community questions for this week are :

1️⃣ Whether your mother is with us in person or in spirit, what is/was your plan to celebrate Mother’s day this year?
~ 𝐀𝐍𝐃 / 𝐎𝐑 ~
2️⃣ Caring for an aged parent can be a joy and at the same time a challenge. What obstacles did you encounter and how did you and your family overcome them?

First of all to start with I must say that having your Mother for a very long time in your life is like a special blessing that Universe gives to you and in that manner, I am very blessed. Having our parents walking with us through our life journey is a fulfilling experience. My parents did not stay together in my growing up, so I always missed them together, and this has been one regret of my life that I never experienced the love of my parents together. It was always one at a time. But then both of them did their jobs very well individually.

For me in my growing up, my father was like my mother and he went away too soon. I feel very sad on this part, because I did not get an opportunity to do anything for him. By the time I was settled in life, he was already gone. With my mother being around I do not want to have any regrets of not being able to do things for her, so she is always my priority. As it is she is a very simple and a humble human being and has very basic needs, all she needs is love and care. She stays with my sister, and I live in another country, so I cannot spend Mother's day with her. Me and my sister would plan a celebration for her by giving her a gift, flowers, cake and then if she is comfortable we would take her for an outing.

My mom. I feel there is no us without her.

One thing I always fail to understand is that why children think that taking care of their parents is a task. It is a very normal thing, just like how they have taken care of us when we are born and helped us at every step in our growing up, in their old age it is our turn to do the same. As a mother the women goes through sleepless nights with her baby, so in her old age what is the problem for the same child to have a few sleepless nights if required to take care of her. When the baby is small, the mother will clean the shit and everything without ever complaining and she will do it with joy for her baby, so when she becomes old and if such is the circumstance then what is the big deal for the same child to do it for her.

Some people make a fuss and drama about taking care of their old parents and I feel they are a disgrace. There is nothing to brag about it or even complain about. It is their responsibility which should be taken care with love and respect and not by any kind of obligation. For any person if they think that taking care of their parent is a task or a burden for them then I just wish they were never born.

When children grow up, they get married and have their own family but that cannot discount their parents. Parents were first in their life and they are part of life, they are not separate. It is all about love, compassion and mutual respect for each other. If the child will not take care of their parent then who else will? One must never forget that Life is a circle, like your parent some day you will also become an old parent for your child and then what do you expect from your child. My mother has her health challenges, but taking care of her has never been a challenge, because I never feel it that way. It is something that I have to do.

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