#250 Ladies Of Hive Community Contest: When I Forgave My Aunt
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Reading through this week's Ladies Of Hive Community Contest got me interested.
It says:
"If forgiveness is especially beneficial for those who are able to let go of past grudges, the invitation to reflect upon is: Do we always have to forgive? Why forgive someone who doesn't deserve forgiveness? Should we always forgive? Share your thoughts."
After reading it, it brought back memories of when I forgave my Aunt.
For me, forgiveness is hard especially if the person deeply hurts you, like it was cut deep.
It didn't seem fair to forgive if you hurt so badly.
But if we remember what God said about forgiveness,
"not up to seven times, but up to 77 times." — Matthew 18:22
Should we count someone's mistakes or keep their score when hurt?
Nope! This doesn't mean there's a specific numerical limit to forgiveness but rather emphasizes that forgiveness should be limitless.
When my aunt and I had a misunderstanding, it left things strained between us.
I kept ignoring her, even her calls and messages.
I knew it was making her sad and hurt, but the pain still lingered every time I saw her, like it was an open wound.
One day, she reached out and asked me to come to her house.
She wanted to talk about what had happened.
I wasn't sure what to expect, but I decided to go.
When I arrived at her house, she had prepared a snack — her way of making things a bit more comfortable, maybe.
We both sat down, and she opened up about how she felt hurt by my silence.
I shared my side too — how I'd felt and why I'd pulled away.
As we talked things through, the misunderstanding got cleared up.
We both realized it was a mix of miscommunications.
When the talk ended, I stood up, opened my arms, and we hugged.
We forgave each other for the hurt caused, and in that hug, things felt better.
Now, what did this experience teach me?
That holding onto grudges wasn't doing you any favors.
It was leading to stress and sadness, weighing down your heart.
Instead, learn to forgive. To let go of the hurt and anger.
It was beneficial for both you and the other person.
When you forgive, you don't have grudges. Your heart felt lighter, happier.
But, how about those
"who doesn't deserve forgiveness,"
as per the question?
For me, rather than deciding if someone "deserves" forgiveness, let's just focus on the act of letting go of hurt and anger towards someone who's wronged you.
In the end, we're all human and make mistakes.
Do you think you deserve forgiveness from others? You totally do!
Practicing forgiveness as God wants us to do, can cultivate happier lives.
It can lead us to peace and contentment.
Instead of tying yourself to the negative emotions, why not learn to forgive?
If I didn't go to my Aunt's house, I didn't feel lighter, and the weight didn't get lifted.
And more importantly, maybe it didn't mend our relationship.
Until my next experience...
Thanks for the visit! Have a lovely day. Buh-bye. 💗🌸
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True. It was hard for me too to forgive someone who hurt me and gave me trauma. Even right now, it still haunts me that it caused me to break down to them because it’s so unfair. They live happily while I still suffer. Lucky you because your aunt wants to reconcile with you again, while those people who hurt me never say "Sorry," and they even blame me for what they've done.
Sorry to hear that. I hope that you find yourself forgiving them soon. Do you think they know that you're still hurt? If you can... Try to talk to them, and say all your feelings, to reconcile even if you think you're not the one who caused the problem... Easy said than done, but that's how life goes. 🩷
I already did. Hahahaha I sent them a message and I forgive them but I also promise to my self that I will never involved with them.
Glad you did. Yeah. After forgiving them, it's your choice if you want to get back to your closeness or not. Yung samin ng auntie ko, parang wala lang nangyari after. That's how forgiveness works sometimes. 😉
I agree with you, we are all human and we make mistakes. It's great that you made peace with your aunt. It reflects that forgiveness allows us to cultivate happiness. Thanks for sharing your experiences,
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Yeah. I'm happy that I experienced forgiving and that she forgave me too. If not, maybe still now there's a gap between us, and for sure that will cause me sadness and stress every time I see her. 😅
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What a touching reflection 💯 thank you for sharing that moment with us... Forgiveness, especially when someone has caused deep hurt, isn’t a step you take lightly. I can relate to that hesitation, that sense of fairness hanging in the balance.
But when you mentioned that verse "not just up to seven times, but up to seventy-seven" I felt a soft shift too. It made me remember that forgiveness isn’t about letting someone off the hook. It is about freeing yourself from the weight you carry inside. That gesture of grace, even for someone who may not feel they deserve it, it can bring you a peace only God can give.
Thank you for opening up this conversation and inviting us to peer into the heart of forgiveness. Your words inspire and comfort more than you may realize.
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Wow. What a lovely comment you left in my post. 💗 And you're right. Forgiving someone is beneficial for you. Just thinking that will lead you to that action. Did you make your own post too regarding this? I think you have a lot more to say, just like this comment. You might win too with that knowledge. 😉
Aww, thank you so much 💗. I am really glad my comment resonated with you. You are right, forgiveness really is more for our own peace than anything else and just deciding to take that step changes so much inside us. I haven’t made my own post about forgiveness yet, the post I made is about how to love yourself when no one tells you how to but you have inspired me to consider it. I do have a lot more thoughts on the topic. And who knows, maybe it could help someone else too.
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I really felt your story because I’ve been there too. Forgiving someone is not easy, lalo na kapag sobrang sakit ng ginawa. But like you, I learned that holding a grudge only makes our heart heavy. When we choose to forgive, were not saying what they did was okay, we’re just choosing peace over pain. Your moment with your aunt is so real and touching, and it remind me that sometimes, fixing a relationship is worth more than holding on to pride.