I told you so… | LOH #245 contest week
Greetings ladies, today we're here to answer one of the questions I found interesting:
Hearing certain words after making a mistake and feeling judged and attacked in the deepest part of our being, what do you think of this phrase: "I told you so?" Would you also say it to someone else?
We all make mistakes, and we've all wanted to be right about something we thought might work because we're confident. In fact, what really feels bad isn't being judged, it's having failed ourselves and having front-row spectators because we were so confident in our abilities that we could achieve that checking the margin of error wasn't on the checklist. Whenever people tell me "I told you so," my response is that I had to try. Things don't always turn out the same. I wanted to try and fail on my own. I rarely feel ashamed, just disappointed.
With respect to whether another person is in the same situation or I had given them advice on something specific and it happened exactly as I predicted, I most likely wouldn’t say it but I would say another comment like “at least now you know the outcome, maybe that will make you calmer.” I think I more than anyone understand that feeling of wanting to try something because I am quite stubborn and I like to evaluate my decisions and the effect they have when they become real action, sometimes they work and other times they don’t. I think trying something and having the intention of making it work helps you build an improved version of yourself because there you see that within you resides a competitive, creative, motivating part and above all a part full of confidence, that’s how I see it.
Saludos ladies, hoy pasamos por aquí para responder una de las preguntas que se me hizo interesante, a continuación:
Al escuchar ciertas palabras después de cometer un error y sentirte juzgado y atacado en lo más profundo de tu ser, ¿qué opinas de esta frase: "Te lo dije"? ¿Se la dirías también a otra persona?
Todos cometemos errores y todos hemos querido tener razón en algo que pensamos qué podría funcionar porque tenemos confianza. De hecho, lo que realmente se siente mal no es el ser juzgado, es habernos fallado a nosotros mismos y tener espectadores en primera fila porque estábamos tan confiados de nuestras capacidades qué podíamos que lograr que ver el margen de error no estaba en el checklist. Siempre que me dicen “te lo dije” mi respuesta es que tenía que intentarlo, no siempre las cosas dan el mismo resultado, quise intentarlo y fracasar por mis propios medios, casi muy poco me siento avergonzada sino como decepcionada.
Con respeto a que si otra persona está en la misma situación o yo le hubiese dado un consejo sobre algo especificó y sucedió tan como lo predije, lo más seguro es que no lo diga pero si diría otro comentario como por “al menos ahora sabes el resultado, quizás eso te deja mas calmado” Creo que yo mas que nadie entiendo ese sentimiento de querer intentarlo algo porque soy bastante terca y me gusta evaluar mis decisiones y el efecto que tienen pasando a la acción real, a veces funcionan y otras veces no. Creo que intentar algo y tener la intención de que salga bien, te ayuda a construir una versión mejorada de ti porque ahí ves que dentro de ti si reside una parte competitiva, creativa, motivadora y sobretodo una parte llena de confianza, así es como lo veo.
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Solo tenemos que darnos una miradita por dentro de vez en cuando. Sobre todo, cuando más perdidas creemos estés. Habita dentro den nosotras el poderío, competitividad y fuerza necesaria para salir cada día a por nuestros sueños.
Así es amiga, dentro de nosotras mismas tenemos bastante fortaleza solo que debemos buscarla bien.
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I agree with you, having the confidence when trying something helps in a big way to build that improved version of yourself, and yes, certainly that competitive, creative, motivational part is very valuable.
I love the phrases you would use ‘at least now you know the outcome, maybe that will reassure you’, it reflects empathy for that person, thanks for sharing your experiences,
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Thank you. I truly believe we shouldn't be so rude to other people. "I told you so," is very arrogant. It's understandable that we all want to try something and prove to ourselves that maybe we can make a difference.
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Mientras la confianza prime, el camino será menos escarpado.
¡Excelente reflexión!
Totalmente de acuerdo.
Gracias por tomarte el tiempo de leer por acá, lo aprecio.
!LADY
believe that failure is a space for learning
It is, I also believe that.
You've perfectly articulated that the sting of "I told you so" isn't necessarily the judgment from others, but rather the disappointment of having failed ourselves, especially when we've approached something with full confidence. It's so true that not all attempts yield the same result, and taking that risk helps us build a stronger, more competitive, creative, motivating, and confident version of ourselves ✨
I always take it easy and try not to judge anyone because I often understand them. We all want to improve and make things possible because we believe it.
I totally agree with you when you say that all humans make mistakes. Yes we fail at some point but it shouldn't guarantee the fact we should give in to failure. I believe life has more better offer always and anytime. Just pursue it, you will achieve it. Thank you for this great piece of writing
Thank you friend, life is about always keeping trying and moving forward, what some cannot achieve others can, you have to persevere!