Engagement: Is Proposal Before Marriage Necessary?
I have seen videos of guys embarrassed while proposing. It's so heartbreaking that I wonder for what purpose certain people go into dating. I don't see the need asking you to marry me after several years of courtship except if it was a courtship on contract. Two people who are intentional about the future already know where the relationship is heading, and it shouldn't be a surprise that the partner wants to settle down at a certain point in time.
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I'm already preparing to get married and I never proposed. She already knew where the relationship was leading and all I asked her was to tell me the things I needed to do to start the marriage rite. That's because I don't believe in asking a partner who I was committed to whether or not she wants to marry me. A proposal should be a stranger thing, asking someone who's a stranger to marry you, not someone you're committed to for years in a relationship.
It doesn't matter who was to propose, whether me or her, I don't buy the idea of proposal, especially for someone I have been in a relationship with for some years. We are not strangers and should know what we want while going into the relationship.
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Honestly, we are all different and our preferences is also different. Just like they always say: Another man food is another man poison. We have some girls, they know the guy they are dating will marry them but they still like it when they propose to them. For some people it's nothing, not a big deal but for others is totally a big deal.
Yeah, perspectives differs. I may not want it but another would
Oh, that's an interesting point of view. I think I have it so normalized that you should always propose, like a way of saying "We are not longer just boyfriends, we are now planning our wedding"
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So does the relationship still continue if she says "No?". Then wait until she's ready to transition into a wife?