Roles in my home -LOH #262 [ENG-ESP]
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Housework is a job like any other, the difference being that when you do it in your own home, you don’t get paid for it. It is done because someone has to do it, and usually the person in charge of it is the one who spends the most time at home, or at least that is the case for me. It is not because I am sexist or anything like that, although I was raised in a home where my dad did not do anything related to cleaning or cooking; he was in charge of working, grocery shopping, and buying what his children needed. That was the way he was raised because in his home, my grandmother was a housewife and my grandfather was the provider. Just as men have been considered since the beginning of time, so was my dad.
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Las tareas del hogar es un trabajo como cualquier otro, la diferencia es que cuando se realiza en tu propio hogar no se obtiene una recompensa monetaria por hacerlo. Se hace porque alguien tiene que hacerlo y generalmente la persona encargada de eso es aquella que pasa más tiempo en la casa o al menos ese es mi caso. No es porque sea machista ni nada por el estilo, aunque fui criada en una casa donde mi papá no hacía nada que tuviera relación con la limpieza o cocina, él se encargaba de trabajar, hacer mercado y comprar lo que sus hijos necesitábamos. Esa fue la manera en la que fue criado pues en su casa mi abuela era ama de casa y mi abuelo el proveedor, así como se le ha considerado desde el principio de los tiempos al hombre, así era mi papá.
In my house, we’re not far from that pattern. My husband is the youngest of four siblings, and he was never taught how to do housework. My mother-in-law is a housewife, and my father-in-law is the breadwinner. So that’s what he learned: a man must ensure that his family has everything it needs, and to do that, he must work hard. Aha! How do we divide our tasks? Exactly the same way. My husband works, so most of the income comes from him, and I take care of the housework. Mind you, I also work, but my job is less demanding than his, and my income is much lower than his, so I spend more time at home and can do what needs to be done around the house. As for grocery shopping (food, deli, meat, hygiene, and other items), we do it once a month and we both go, since he pays and I know what we need at home.
Among the many differences that must exist between my father and my husband, and surely his father, one is that my husband takes care of his children when they are sick. He has always been a concerned father who has been very involved in the care and education of the children, something that my father was not very committed to, to say the least. I don’t see our division of tasks as the patriarchal model where women are obligated and it is women’s work, because I know that if the situation changed, my husband would adapt to a new one (for example, finding me a job with a better salary but that involves more time on my part), but rather that we are a team that has roles within the family and for now he works 12 hours a day and I spend more time at home, because I only work half a day. You can’t expect someone who works 12 hours a day to also have to do household chores when there is someone else in the house who spends much more time there. For me, it’s a matter of logic and fairness.
En mi casa, no estamos muy lejos de ese patrón. Mi marido es el menor de cuatro hermanos y nunca le enseñaron a hacer las tareas domésticas. Mi suegra es ama de casa y mi suegro es el sostén de la familia. Así que eso es lo que aprendió: un hombre debe asegurarse de que su familia tenga todo lo que necesita y, para ello, debe trabajar duro. ¡Ajá! ¿Cómo dividimos nuestras tareas? Exactamente de la misma manera. Mi marido trabaja, por lo que la mayor parte de los ingresos provienen de él, y yo me encargo de las tareas domésticas. Eso sí, yo también trabajo, pero mi trabajo es menos exigente que el suyo y mis ingresos son mucho menores, así que paso más tiempo en casa y puedo hacer lo que hay que hacer. En cuanto a la compra (comida, charcutería, carne, higiene y otros artículos), la hacemos una vez al mes y vamos los dos, ya que él paga y yo sé lo que necesitamos en casa.
Entre las muchas diferencias que deben existir entre mi padre y mi marido, y seguramente su padre, una es que mi marido cuida de sus hijos cuando están enfermos. Siempre ha sido un padre preocupado que se ha involucrado mucho en el cuidado y la educación de los niños, algo en lo que mi padre no estaba muy comprometido, por decirlo suavemente. No veo nuestra división de tareas como el modelo patriarcal en el que las mujeres están obligadas y es trabajo de mujeres, porque sé que si la situación cambiara, mi marido se adaptaría a una nueva (por ejemplo, buscarme un trabajo con un mejor salario pero que me requiera más tiempo), sino que somos un equipo que tiene roles dentro de la familia y, por ahora, él trabaja 12 horas al día y yo paso más tiempo en casa, porque solo trabajo medio día. No se puede esperar que alguien que trabaja 12 horas al día también tenga que hacer las tareas domésticas cuando hay otra persona en la casa que pasa mucho más tiempo allí. Para mí, es una cuestión de lógica y justicia.
As for help around the house, I have two children, a girl and a boy who are now teenagers, and since they were little I have taught them to help with household chores equally, without gender distinction, so my son does all the housework, although he prefers cooking to cleaning, but he does it anyway, which makes me think that my son will be more helpful when he has his own family, as he has been raised differently, and so has my daughter. Well, this whole generation is being raised differently.
Well, my friend, this has been my entry in the LOH #262 contest.
En cuanto a la ayuda en el hogar tengo dos hijos, una niña y un niño que ya son unos adolescentes y desde pequeños los he enseñado a colaborar en los quehaceres del hogar por igual, sin distinción de género, así que mi hijo realiza todos los trabajos del hogar aunque prefiere la cocina por encima de la limpieza, pero igual lo hace, lo que me hace pensar que mi hijo será de más ayuda cuando tenga su propia familia, pues ha sido criado de una manera diferente y mi hija también. Bueno, toda esta generación está siendo criada diferente.
Bueno amiga, está ha sido mi participación en el concurso semana LOH #262.
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My grandparents much the same structured marriage, my parents both worked full day where chores fell to four of us equally. Teaching your children will assist them once they are adults to consider options in their lives.
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Of course, we come from families like that, but that doesn't mean we raised our children the same way. We have to evolve and give them more options. Thank you so much.
Children need good direction in formative 1-7 years, then allow options under guidance. Change is happening so quickly we will not keep up with latest technology as well as a child will.
Just to be a little different, does your husband exclusively responsible for fixing things around the household or is that shared too to some extent? I've done projects like replacing and electrical outlet, replacing a problem bathroom faucet, installed a compression fitting around a pipe leak, fixed a fence gate, and even as big as fixing my leaky roof. I'd wonder what his reaction if you offered to help ...say installing a new gas range. Or painting the living room?
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